So, I know many people have gone through something like this in some capacity and I just want to know, is the man to blame for leading the female on and playing the field (i.e enjoying all of the benefits of a relationship w/o having a commitment) or are women to blame for allowing ourselves to fall and be played?

I know that I am in no way, shape or form, qualified to tell a woman how to find the right man (i.e - -IM STILL SINGLE), but I can share with you all a new plan that I've put into place, to help me sort through the good and the bad.
MZSKEEN'S TOP 10 WAYS TO FIND MR.RIGHT
1) KNOW YOUR WORTH - - Always find someone that compliments you. Sometimes opposites may not ALWAYS attract.
2) DO NOT SETTLE! - - Settling and being unhappy is worst that being single! TRUST ME!
3) LOCATION IS KEY! - - Be aware of the surroundings where you meet me. Chances are, the man yo you meet at church is different from the man that you meet at a club.
4) PAY ATTENTION TO SIGNS - - Men are simple. If they don't call, text or see you, they're probably not that into you!
5) ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS: Pay more attention to how a guys behaves and treats you, verses the things that he says to you.
6) TIMING IS KEY - - Don't rush things. remember ladies, when you first meet a guy, thats his 'representative' . . . about 3 - 6 months later the real him will slowly start to appear.
7) LAY IT ON THE LINE - - As women, we seem to think that men are psychic. We expect them to know what we want and how to treat us etc. That isn't always the case. It is up to us to say out loud what we look for in a man, a relationship and how we expect to be treated.. there is no harm in that. . . just remember, don't say TOO much. . . you don't want to tell a man what to do! (for a various reasons)
8) MAKE A MOVE - - This is the one I have the most issues with. I always expect men to make the first move. BUT men do appreciate a woman approaching them. Don't go INN!! A casual 'Hello, how are you?' 'What's your name?' will be fine. If they don't take it over from there...NEXT!
9) DROP THE BAGS - - No man wants a woman with baggage. . .particularly baggage from the past. Don't talk about your deadbeat ex, to someone that you want to be your potential ex!
10) LOVE YOURSELF! - - If you don't love you, know one will! No man wants a woman with low self-esteem! The way you feel about and treat yourself will be a guideline for your guy to in turn, know how to treat you! - CONFIDENCE IS KEY!
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Very nicely written. I agree!!!
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